5DS? Ideas evolve, theories change, and so....

 

                                David L. Asselstine, PSW, M.NLP, P.Men, LC, RoP

It has taken several years for this model to come into fruition. It has been up and down at times, ideas have come and gone and yet, time has ticked by with lingering thoughts that something was missing. After much speculation and time spent listening to the many beautiful stories I am so luck to hear about, I have decided the time was now. 

The 7 Dimensions of Self (at present) are: Ambition, Motivation, Self Confidence, Self Esteem, Self Efficacy, Situational Awareness, and Self Awareness

We're going to get into the nitty gritty of these developments in our upcoming blog posts so keep an eye out@ 

Forward Positive Momentum 2.0

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Close your eyes. Focus on your breathing : in through the nose and out through the mouth nice and easy. Now breathe in and hold for a count of 4. Hold that breath for 7 seconds, (if you have difficulty with breathing hold it in for 4-5 seconds- whichever is more comfortable for you), now gently exhale for 6-8 seconds. Imagine a sparkling lake, the waters surface smells of earth and moss with nothing but the reflection of the nice warm sun on the surface. You are that sail boat.

 

 

 

 

 

Here's a synopsis of the What's implied by the sailboat metaphor - (courtesy of Linda Worley MD )

 

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In the App we use the metaphor that RPM (revolutions per minute) is the actual driving force of  the boat from the boat metaphor.  The Forward Positive Momentum of your life is literally the driving force of your life. We  divided FPM into three categories . Those categories are Situational Awareness/ Focus, (SA), Motivation/Ambition (MA), and finally Confidence/Self Worth (CS). In the next three blog posts we will be going into depth to elaborate about what and why we chose these specific categories. 

Situational Awareness/ Focus

Our ability to be aware of challenges in our life helps us to find solutions. When we're focused on overcoming challenges we feel empowered to make positive changes in our lives. 

(courtesy of Google Images)

We've paired up the category of Self Awareness with a quick look at either general or specific anxiety. You're asked to look at your day as a whole or find a specific situation and identify whether the situation caused you anxiety helps put you in touch with your awareness and will help you focus on improving those places you find you're having difficulty with in your day to day life.

Make the World a Better Place Pt.2

𝓑𝓮 𝓪 𝓟𝓸𝓼𝓲𝓽𝓲𝓿𝓮 𝓒𝓱𝓪𝓷𝓰𝓮 𝓲𝓷 𝓽𝓱𝓮 𝓦𝓸𝓻𝓵𝓭 𝓸𝓯 𝓞𝓷𝓮 𝓟𝓮𝓻𝓼𝓸𝓷

 

**This is your trigger warning**
This blog contains offensive language and content that WILL MOST DEFINITELY offend liberal fluffies- back off now You've been warned...
 
Welcome Back Everyone!

So Let's start this off on the right foot ( or the left if you prefer)

(courtesy of Google Images)

 

We are all human beings doing the best that we can to be better at being ourselves.

In our last blog post we talked about the necessity to show courtesy to people with disabilities but I would really like to point out that we should show everyone courtesy. 
Parents are busier than ever trying to stay afloat in a world full of crazy expectations and demanding work schedules that make having work/life balance a near impossibility for most people. They just simply don't have time to teach their children things like : "don't stare at the girl in the wheel chair because it's rude" or more specifically: 
" simply standing in front of someone trying to load up into a wheel chair accessible taxi. They stand there faces buried in their cell phones with no awareness of what's happening around them as this individual is trying to get up the wheel chair ramp. "

"Please?"  what the hell does that mean? Give it to me now!!

"Thank You" Gratitude? from Millennials, from GenX, City Dwellers ? Yeah right 

Our social skills have gone the way of the dodo thanks to the fancy pocket-calculators we call cellphones. Do you know what goes hand-in-hand with social skills? Common Courtesy!

Heaven forbid you hold a door open for someone and get called a misogynist

Common Courtesy is a set of unspoken rules that allows everyone in a community to function in a harmonious environment of respect and mutual consideration.
 
Common Courtesy comes from the values and respect for other people that parents teach their children. When the children don't understand basic manners it's on the parents and it's not the kids fault that the parents didn't take the time to teach them to respect other people. 

Yep it's your fault

 

Here's one well-known cultural offender who mistreat their vulnerable population: China

Some cultures don't see disabled people the way that we do in the West.In the West we are implementing laws and adaptable systems to include access for everyone. In China as in the picture above disabled people are treated like worthless prisoners locked up and kept away from public view.

Most of the Islam World hates dogs. Visually impaired people use dogs to navigate and there is another group that we have not touched on yet : Emotional Support Dogs.  I have personally witnessed proprietors of this sect opening doors to apartment buildings to let a young lady's service dog run away from her deliberately. I have seen them in many instances attempt to provoke a non-service animal into an aggressive act in order to have the animal put down. 
Grow up. 

" this is not an excuse for poor behavior this is a refusal to live in harmony because everyone else won't conform to your cultural/belief systems."

- I put quotes around this because I'm saying this and I hope someone does quote this somewhere because it's about damn time we woke up to what's going on around us. 

So Forward Positive Momentum What is it?

Sometimes we need things to move quickly
Sometimes we need things to slow down,
Knowing what you want to achieve helps you maintain balance. 

(App available on Google Play)

(https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=appinventor.ai_BrotherAlchemyst.FPM2)

"The FPM SET started as a way for me to keep track of my goals, identify areas where I was having difficulty and to have a visual representation of where I believed my life was headed. I loved the sailboat metaphor from Psychology but from the first time I heard it- I knew something of an idea was brewing within me."

                   -Creator David L. Asselstine

It's still an evolving concept and I'm not sure that I can ever promise that it will be done but what I can promise is that you will only ever pay for this app one time. The FPM SET is a tool designed for people to use even if you only have 5 minutes a day ! It is an evaluation tool that gauges specific situations throughout your day that you considered important enough to include on the evaluation. There are 3 basic criteria for the FPM SET they are Situational Awareness/Mindfulness , Motivation/Ambition, and finally but not least Self Confidence. I'll leave it at this for now because in the next blog I'll be discussing the Sailboat Metaphor itself. This information is also included in the App itself by the way and it's available on youtube.